First it was Legos and coloring books and cookies and cocoa. Then came withholding sex and shaving heads. And now this:
Yale University chief psychiatry resident Dr. Amanda Calhoun spoke to MSNBC host Joy Reid on Friday about ways liberals who are devastated with Trump’s re-election this week can cope with news, including separating from certain loved ones.
“So, if you are going into a situation where you have family members, where you have close friends who you know have voted in ways that are against you… it’s completely fine to not be around those people and to tell them why,” Calhoun told Reid.
Calhoun continued, noting that it is important, and even “essential” for people to establish boundaries with family members for their own sanity.
“I think you should very much be entitled to do so, and I think it may be essential for your mental health.”
I’m OK, you’re OK, but only if you vote the right (left?) way…
Ah, Thanksgiving! A holiday with great family traditions and many memories. My mother and her mother before her always did the entire traditional turkey feast. My mom has probably been responsible for more than 65 dinners over the years.
This repast is a massive amount of work and manages to get nearly every pot, pan, dish and wine glass in the house dirty. In the old days the women did the cooking and cleaned up afterwards while the men took a nap. The Thanksgiving Day NFL games have been part of that nap since the 1970’s. Today however, the clean up is coed and my brother and I and our wives take on that task. And we are giving my mom a lot of help with the dinner too. I’m supposed to cook my famous ‘turkey breast with caramelized onions’ which is a bit easier than dealing with a whole turkey.
Guess who might not be coming to dinner?
There will only be 8 guests, all family. And all mature adults. I’m pretty sure we are civil enough not to avoid each other over some political differences. I frankly do not know how any of them voted except for Stoker. Nor do I care. If asked I will tell, and if that means they have to leave, that just means more turkey leftovers for the rest of us.
Ditto for the bike club. I don’t think any of the regulars are going to stop riding with each other over the election results, but I’m not sure. I haven’t been doing many club rides lately for a host of reasons, but political differences are not involved. Actually club conversation tends to avoid controversial topics, unless you want to argue whether disc brakes are necessary or complain about the inability to buy a high end mechanical group set in an era where all shifting is becoming electronic.
But for those taking the chief psychiatry resident’s words to heart and choosing to avoid some people who ‘voted in ways that are against you’, consider this. What you are doing says more about you than it does about them. You have a very self centered world view. Have some cocoa and cookies…
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